The Love Letter Method: Manifestation Technique That’s Better Than Dating Apps

Let’s dive into the method, its principles, and how you can start using it today.

What Is The Love Letter Method (And Why It Actually Works)

The Love Letter Method is a manifestation technique that involves writing a letter to yourself from the perspective of someone else, typically someone you wish to think or act differently toward you.

The Love Letter Method is based on two powerful principles:

1. Neville Goddard’s philosophy of “Everyone is You Pushed Out“ – People reflect back what you believe about yourself (mind-bending, right?)
2. Hermetic Principle “As Within, So Without“ – Based on hermetic teachings, your external reality mirrors your internal beliefs.

By writing love letters you’re shifting your internal assumptions.

When you write from the perspective of someone else expressing love and appreciation for you, you start to believe in the reality of those positive emotions.

This shift in energy manifests changes in their behavior towards you.

For a more comprehensive understanding of manifesting, check out this guide on manifestation​.

Now that we understand the philosophy behind the Love Letter Method, it’s time to dive into the practical steps and explore how you can apply this technique to manifest changes in your relationships. 

Whether you’re trying to heal a relationship, attract a new connection, or shift the way someone thinks about you, the Love Letter Method can be a powerful tool when used consistently.

How to Use the Love Letter Method

Let’s get real for a second. If your love letter sounds like a desperate teen’s diary entry, you’re doing it wrong. (Trust me, I’ve seen enough of those in my coaching practice to write a book titled “What Not to Manifest.”)

Wrong Way 

“Dear [specific person’s name], I really wish you would notice me. I hope someday you’ll see how much I care about you…“

Right Way

“[Your name], I can’t help but smile every time I think about you. Your confidence and authenticity are magnetic. The way you carry yourself with such grace makes me feel proud to be in your life. I love how our connection grows stronger each day…“

By writing in their voice, you shift your inner assumptions and beliefs about how they perceive you. This changes the energy you project, which in turn influences their actual thoughts and behavior.

Here’s what most manifestation teachers won’t tell you:

The success of the Love Letter Method isn’t in the writing – it’s in the embodiment. This is where the magic happens!

How to Use the Love Letter Manifestation Method: Step-by-Step Guide

Here’s a simple breakdown of how to start using the Love Letter Method to change your reality:

Step 1: Choose the Person

Identify who you want to think or feel differently about you. This could be a romantic partner, friend, family member, or colleague.

Step 2: Write from Their Perspective

Begin your letter as if the person is speaking to you directly. Write as though they are telling you how much they love, appreciate, and respect you. For example:

“I can’t stop thinking about how much you mean to me. You’ve brought so much joy and positivity into my life, and I’m grateful for everything you do.”

Focus on positive, loving language, and include specific qualities you wish they would acknowledge in you.

Step 3: Focus on Your Emotions

While writing, feel the emotions of love and gratitude as though the letter is real. This emotional connection is critical because it helps shift your internal beliefs. The more vividly you can imagine the person saying these things to you, the more powerful the manifestation will be.

Step 4: Re-read the Letter

After writing, take time to re-read the letter. Allow yourself to absorb the positive emotions and new beliefs you’ve created.  The key is to feel like the person truly sees you in this new light.

Step 5: Practice 

Like with any manifestation practice, it’s important to practice. The ultimate goal is to use the letters as training wheels until living in the state of the wish fulfilled becomes natural. Re-write the letter frequently, especially if you feel doubts creeping in. Over time, your assumptions will solidify, and you’ll notice changes in how the person behaves toward you.

Practical Applications: When to Use the Love Letter Method

The Love Letter Manifestation Method can be used in a variety of scenarios where you want to improve or change a relationship dynamic. For example:

Healing a Relationship

If you’ve experienced conflict or distance in a relationship, you can use this method to manifest healing. Write as though the person is expressing forgiveness, love, and a desire to reconnect.

Attracting a New Partner

If you’re seeking a romantic connection, write from the perspective of your ideal partner, expressing love and admiration for you. This helps align your internal beliefs with the love you’re looking to manifest.

Improving Friendships or Family Bonds

Use the Love Letter Method to strengthen bonds with friends or family members. Write as though they are appreciating your efforts and expressing gratitude for the connection.

Shifting Workplace Dynamics

If you’re struggling with how a colleague or boss perceives you, write a letter as if they are recognizing your contributions and respecting your work. Shifting your internal beliefs will reflect in how they treat you in real life.

*Want more advice on transforming relationships? Check out this guide on manifesting love using the Law of Assumption​.

The True Power of Writing Love Letters: A Timeless Success Story

Let me share an inspiring story that perfectly illustrates why this method is so powerful – and it’s not just about manifesting romance.

This story comes from one of Neville Goddard’s lectures:

There was a woman in New York who had been estranged from her son and daughter-in-law for two years following a heated argument. Despite sending numerous gifts to her grandson, none were ever acknowledged. The silence was deafening.

But here’s where it gets interesting.

One night, instead of stewing in her pain (like most of us do), she decided to write herself two letters:

• One from her daughter-in-law, expressing warmth and inviting her to visit
• Another from her grandson, expressing love and gratitude for his birthday presents

For seven nights, she read these letters mentally before sleep, feeling the joy of being reconnected with her family.

Here’s the mind-bending part:

On the morning of the eighth day, she received actual letters from both her daughter-in-law and grandson – identical in sentiment to what she had written.

The Love Letter Method: Additional  Benefits

Need more reasons to try this method?

Well, with the Love Letter Method, you’re not only manifesting desired relationships, but you’re also doing something good for your health. 

Here are 5 health-boosting benefits of writing love letters: